The scary thoughts that all Mid twenties go through

Hi guys, 

So I thought I would share with you all, the current inner workings of my brain. 

I am currently 24 and I find myself at a scary crossroads. 

At this point in life, a lot of people that I went to school with now have kids and are married. 

In fact a lot of my exes are. It's weird when you think that they have taken that level of commitment and you're sitting there debating what film you wanna see next, or whether next year you might go on holiday. 

I think there is a lot of pressure on people my age to know exactly where their life is going. I watched on a TV show this week that 24 is where you start to hit your career stride. I really hope not for the simple fact that personally I am still at university, fighting the good fight. 

My job is not one that I intend to have for the rest of my life. I actually hope that one day I can in some small way benefit the field of History, as it is something that I've always been in love with. 

I think that there is a lot of pressure to marry and settle down with kids. I get this from people a lot. My partner and I have been together four years. But I feel that there is a lot of stuff that we want to do before we put a ring on it. The main one being the goal of buying our own house first - a solid foundation. Yet when I say this to certain people (of my generation and older) I get that judging look.

 I also get judged for not having kids. Again the reason for this being that we both want a solid foundation. People just need to chill out, as I have said on this blog before, half the fun is to plan the plan.  Also I need to majorly learn to cook first, I don't want to be a parent that permanently feeds their kids from the freezer (pizza, chicken nuggets etc). 

I also think that people my age also get judged for growing up too quickly - live a're only young once. This is a massive annoyance to me as it tends to be the same people from the paragraph above. I just don't understand what you want from me.....

To sum up this little rant / putting the world to rights post, I think people my age have a lot of decisions to make in what feels like a short amount of time. By 30, you are kind of expected to have your life together. Although if I am still blogging in 6 years, I might have a different opinion. 

I think that people's choices are theres to make. If you want to grow up quickly, great if you don't thats great too. But I really feel that we should leave each other alone and support each other. 

If you are my age and reading this... I hope you have a little chuckle. If you are the friends or family of those people, please take a little note and back off a little. We don't know where our lives are going right now and thats ok. It's the beauty of life! 

Drop me a comment below with how you are feeling about he future and I'm going to go and watch some cartoons while drinking whisky or something 



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Erin said…
Ah, all of these points are so infuriating, haha! I don't know what this obsession is with starting a family before the age of 25, but it's deeply irritating. In the past two or three weeks I've seen three or four different people I went to high school with get married. I know SO MANY people with children. Multiple children! Why???? A friend of mine told me she wouldn't want to have children if she were over ~28 because then she and her children would be of different generations and cultural moments, that they wouldn't be able to relate and my only thought was 'That's the point.' Baffling.

Becky Russell said…
I love this comment so much, thank you. I don't mind people growing up faster than me, I just don;t appreciate getting judged for wanting to take it slow haha


Becky x
Anonymous said…
I completely understand where you are coming from, your twenties are very confusing! I am 27 and still don't have it figured out despite being married and having a mortgage! I am not sure you ever think you are where you are meant to be! Good luck with everything, three years older than you and things seemed to have worked out, it will all be OK in the end!
LyndseyJ said…
I totally agree with this, I'm sick of hearing 'oh your next' every time someone gets married or has a baby. We are saving to buy a house too which will give us a stable home for when we do make that step, but at the moment we are loving our lives and I wouldn't change it. Xxx
Becky Russell said…
Thanks for the comments guys. I love how this post that started off as a rant seems to be preaching to the choir.... I'm glad that I'm not alone in my view haha x

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